Live While You are Alive….

How often are your really living your life versus going through motions of stuff to do? How often are you intentional about what you are thinking, feeling or doing? How often are you really looking at every detail of what is in front of you, whether it be a person or an object? How often are you truly present in your day to day life and living your life, the one you chose?

So often I am out with people who are texting, looking at social media or talking on their phone versus being present. They miss the conversation, it becomes fragmented because they need to check this, or answer that. We aren’t talking when people have ill family or small children, that I get. We are talking about people not being present. Always thinking about what they can be doing, what others are doing, who needs me, someone must need me! And ignoring who is in front of them. I remember recently being out to dinner and 2 people’s phones were on the table and they were constantly looking at them, answering people, etc. I felt pretty invisible, which I tend to feel these days to begin with (that is for another blog!).

Being present alleviates the anxiety that comes with over thinking, over analyzing, worrying, etc. When we are present, and see everything around us as a miracle and exciting, life changes. The more I view things as exciting and not dread them, the more I feel happiness. The more I am present in my life, not focused on the past or the future, the more I feel genuine happiness and authentically myself. The more I pay attention to what others are saying to understand them instead of how I can reply, the better the conversations have become. The better the relationship becomes.

Focusing on what you don’t have, can’t do, haven’t done, or how others view you, is not living your life to me. That is looking for validation and acceptance from others. Always needing to be connected and answering to everyone who reaches out no matter who you are with tells me that you aren’t happy. You are always looking for the next thing to do to bring you what ever current reality isn’t giving you.

I continue to work on being present. I try to leave my phone in my purse or in my car. I work hard at listening versus thinking about how I can reply. I am living my life moment by moment with less time in the past or future. It is electric to be present, open to every miracle and view life in the moment.

Live your life while you are alive. Focus on each person in front of you and not the ones who are not. Be present with your children, your grandchildren, your friends, your family and especially with yourself.

Live life while you are alive.