In the world of extroverts and introverts, the difference is how we get energy. Extroverts get their energy through people, places and things. They aren’t usually drained by big crowds, and they tend not to want to be alone that often. Introverts, on the contrary, need time alone or in nature to recharge, being drained when they are with big crowds, and around a lot of stimuli. That doesn’t make one better than the other, there is no good or bad, it just is about energy. We all have a primary way to gain energy. Over time, as we grow older, we tend to balance it out a bit more, becoming more trustful of the non-primary way to gain energy.
As an extrovert throughout my life, I have become much more content alone, and can gain energy through reflection and alone time just as easily as with a crowd. I also can be drained by the big crowds more than I used to be. In fact, the lack of connection is sometimes so energizing as it allows me to go internally, reflect and learn, and then when I am back with people, I am different. I have grown. But that is because I have become more comfortable. I see many people who I know who are extroverts who still get their energy through doing, through being with people, places and things. Again, there is no right or wrong or good way or not good way. It is all individual and what you need.
During this time of trying to stem the tide of this virus, it may mean everyone staying home more, staying away from big crowds and events, as most are cancelled. This could be an introvert’s dream and an extrovert’s nightmare. Although you may not be in a compromised state of health, and may not worry about contracting this virus, we also have to consider who we are around. I’m not worried about me, I have a great immune system and do not have any underlying health issues that concern me. I do have a 94 year old dad and a 94 year old Aunt who I cannot give the virus to. So, I need to be careful about where I go, who I am close to so I do not contract it and give it to them.
Based on that, I started to think about ways to stay connected without feeling isolated, given my home is filled with just me, a dog and a cat! The phone is always a good way to connect. Instead of just texting people, I am reaching out and trying to talk to people more. I am using technology with my clients by using Zoom to see them and talk with them. I am limiting my time with people by seeing one person at a time and if we are going somewhere, really focusing on small crowds with a lot of room between people. I am social distancing, which means no hugs for this hugger!! I am taking all of my vitamins and supplements, and trying to nourish my body as much as possible.
I am also using this time to be productive alone. I am reading, and spending time learning. Yesterday, as I chanted a Sanskrit mantra that I needed to learn for my meditation certification, I also played outside with the dog! We chased the ball and chased each other while the cat lounged in the sun. I was able to get exercise, be in the sunshine and receive unconditional love all at the same time!
This is not an easy time for many. If you feel isolated, give someone a call. Feel free to call me, I am ready to talk to anyone! If you feel as if this is all bullshit, then I just ask that you be careful, as there are people in your life who may be compromised. You may be fine, but they may not be.
Last but not least, allow yourself this time. The universe could be saying, slow down, reflect, rest, and recharge. Be well all!