What Growth Looks Like

Forget what you think you know of me. Forget the interactions you have had that have shaped who I am in your mind and how I behave. Imagine, for a moment that you never met me and I shared the following:

“Today, I used my voice in a non-judgmental and compassionate filled way to share how I was feeling. I spoke about my personal responsibility in the issue and his. I trusted myself and my feelings enough to say and do what I needed to feel aligned with what I truly wanted. I have complete faith that the universe has my back and it will all figure itself out. I was never angry, I was never accusatory, and I was confident and clear and open.”

What comes to mind for you? Is it, that is how I have seen you respond? or is it, wow that doesn’t sound like you? or is it, I can see you doing it that way and I can see you flipping out?

All of the above probably! I would also say that I tried to control every second of my life so having faith that it will all work out was not in my lexicon. That was not something I really built until after my lowest point in 2010.

My past versions would have asked a bunch of people I respect their opinions, would have tried to figure out a plan B before the conversation, would have probably either been a victim or the aggressor, never neither. My past versions would have been angry in her approach, and would not have listened as well. My past versions would have wanted to win, at all costs, and that would have meant truly fighting.

The growth is in the compassionate, non-combative approach, the personal responsibility without becoming a victim and the looking for a win without compromising myself. This is personal growth. The energy behind what I do is different, therefore the approach is from a place of love, compassion, collaboration and connection. The growth is in being aware of how you want to approach and how you don’t want to approach a situation. The growth is in being intentional in your thinking, your language, your unwavering vision and conviction in who you are becoming.

This is what growth looks like. This is what expansion and becoming the next version of you looks like. You get to practice ways of being and decide what feels most aligned with the person you are on the inside. Most people never realized how little confidence I had and how much I needed others to help me think things through, not trusting myself fully.

This is what growth looks like.